Spiritual Warrior Woman

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As I write this, it is the middle of January, 2017. It is a cold, dreary, overcast day in Massachusetts. A perfect day to journal, to meditate, to contemplate.

It is also the week of the inauguration of a president-elect that many, many people feel is repugnant, an insult to the office of President. I must say that I am one of those people. Everything I stand for and believe in runs completely counter to what that man represents.

I have been on my spiritual path for four decades; yes, 40 years. I am a daughter of the Goddess. I love my path. I love my Goddess. I love to meditate; I taught Kundalini Yoga and Meditation to women for years. I taught about the Goddess through the art of belly dance. I am a healer, a Reiki Master and a Crystal Healer. All of this, I did, and do, in the name of the Goddess.

Women, just by the nature of their being, are Warriors. We come into a world that is ready to beat us down simply for being female. We are taught to act a certain way; to be quiet, not loud; dress to look like a lady, not a woman, not a whore; don’t swear; don’t try to get ahead in your job because you will be seen as aggressive, a bitch. We walk down a street and men feel they can say the most disgusting things to us by virtue of the fact that they are men, and we are not. This does not even take into account the physical fear that we deal with on a daily basis, because we are Woman.

The man who has been elected to the highest office in the US is the personification of what a woman fears, what a woman hates; he triggers us with his misogyny and predatory sexism. He is the type of man who brings out the Warrior in a certain type of woman.

There are those, women included, that feel that you cannot fight for what you believe, stand up for your principles, and still be a feminine woman. Not only that, but fighting back is the “dark side” of the spiritual coin. Who wants to go to the dark side? I do, and many are there right along with me.

Politically speaking, to some, this week feels like Darkness personified. Many fear the path the world, in general, and the US, specifically, seems to be traveling. Many different communities are feeling afraid, confused as to what their future will hold.
So, yes, it is dark. But it does not make me weak. It makes me strong

Yes, it is dark. We should look that dark right in the face and confront it.

Yes, it is dark, but cliche as it is, you cannot have the light without the dark.

As women, we have all spent time in the darkness, whether by choice as it was dictated by our spiritual path, or because we fell into the darkness due to life’s circumstances. But whatever reason we were there, alone, in the dark, whether we embraced it or fought it, we learned from it. Take the knowledge, the wisdom that you have acquired on your path and apply it to what is in front of you. What have you learned in the darkness that you can bring into the light?

Maybe the country, the world, is seeking the magic that we, as women, hold. Maybe, we were born for this time, this reason, to fight the darkness that threatens to overcome.

These are the times that our faith in the Goddess comes to the fore. We may see what is happening and feel helpless and/or hopeless. But we are neither. We have faith, which makes us strong. We are women with an inbred indomitable Warrior spirit. As women, we become warriors in the fight for what is right and what is good.

So, for myself, I will take the dark and use it to fuel the flame that brings the light to the fight. I will be a Warrior. A Beautiful, Spiritual Woman Warrior!

Would you join me?

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Shakti Warrior
)O(

An Ending, and A Beginning

It seems appropriate to jot down a few thoughts for the last day of a perfectly horrible year.

Too many of us learned that fear and hatred is alive and well in our country.  We let our guard down, we thought, for one brief shining moment, that maybe, just maybe, the country was going in the right direction.  But no, we had to re-learn that racism, bigotry, sexism, misogyny, homophobia and all of humankind’s worse traits are in full force; and, not just in the U.S., but around the world.  We learned that there are those who will overlook the most heinous traits in a man, and elect him president, while cursing and calling for the arrest of a woman who has given her whole life to serving the people.  She wasn’t perfect; even those who voted for her can agree with that statement.  But she has tried, and she has fought mostly against those who would bring her down.  There has been much written about the outcome and I don’t think I can add much to what has already been said; except, that for many who voted for one and not the other, the biggest thing against her was that she was a woman, followed closely by the fact that there are those who hate her husband — guilty by association.

That being said, we head into the unknown, or not.  We already know the names of those who have been appointed.  There is fear heading into the new year; fear for minorities, immigrants, the LGBTQ community.  There is fear for women that the new regime is going to push us back to the 1950’s.  Well, they can try.  We will fight.  We will ALL fight.

And, that, is where the hope comes in, because yes, there is hope.  There is always hope.  Those who will fight, will band together; they will find common ground and find they have more in common that they may have thought.

This is our strength.  Because we love and we believe and we have faith that good will always prevail over evil.  It doesn’t really, not all of the time as in the old-timey movies.  But it can win, and it does win.

I am re-reading the Harry Potter books and I have come to think of the president-elect and his minions as Lord Voldemort and his Death Eaters.  Near the end of the Half-Blood Prince is this sentence:

“It was important, Dumbledore said, to fight and fight again, and keep on fighting, for only then could evil be kept at bay, though never eradicated……..”

So, let us go into 2017 knowing that some of us will continue to fight, but we will fight with a feeling of hope and faith that love will prevail.  Because, truly, it must.

Wishing you all the blessings of the Goddess in the New Year.

)O(

No, It is Not Normal; and Yes, It is Personal

I am still dealing with the reality of the US election results.  The emotions seem to come in awful, gut-clenching waves.

I watched the most recent episode of John Oliver in HBO, and what needs to be reinforced by everyone is to repeat, “this is NOT normal; do NOT normalize this man”.   This cannot be repeated enough.

I stopped counting how many times I have been told that everyone who voted for DT is not a bigot and a racist, that they do not hate women, or those in the LGBTQ community.  They just voted for change because things cannot continue in our government as they have been.

I agree with that statement.  Changes must be made, but those changes should not be made at the expense of the rights of others.  The fact that you voted for him means that either change was more important to you than the rights of women, people of color, the LGBTQ community, immigrants; or, it means that your hatred for HRC was more important.  Neither of those reasons cut is for me.  For me, this is personal, very personal.

I’m a woman, so that is strike #1 against me.  That Planned Parenthood will be defunded is most likely a done deal.  Women who are urban, poor, of color, who visit Planned Parenthood for their healthcare will be out of luck, but hey, if some get sicker, or even die, it won’t matter because they are women and they are inferior to men.  There will be a fight to overturn Roe v. Wade.  How many remember the distant past before Roe v. Wade when women who needed to terminate a pregnancy went to some back alley quack, took meds, or Goddess forbid, a coat hanger to do so?  Will this matter to the new administration?  Again women are inferior to men and if some die, it doesn’t matter much.  The value of women to this administration has been made quite clear by the president-elect and the person he chose for VP.  One is a pig and a misogynist; the other a Christian who makes all of his decisions based on a book written long ago and far away by men.  He will do what he can to set back women’s rights decades.   So, as a woman, yes, this is personal.

I have had people from the LGBTQ community around me my entire life.  Some are friends, some family, some adopted family.  When you starting talking about repealing same-sex marriage, or stopping trans-gender rights in their tracks, you are talking about people that I love.  That the leadership of a country would ruin the lives of so many, destroying their families, is a disgrace.  So,  as someone who loves those in this community, yes, this is personal.

My heart goes out to people of color in this country.  This past year has shown us the complete disregard and disrespect shown to them by, apparently, the majority of this country.  The incidents of racism increased this year, and has spiked even more since the election.  I’m white but I have been in a situation where the bigotry toward blacks spilled over to me.  I dated a black man off and on for half dozen years back in the day.  I remember how I felt being called “nigger lover” and other shameful terms.  That these were said by people who were supposed to be my friends only made it that much worse.  I survived where so many people of color do not survive.  What we thought was mostly over, has just been hiding and now, with tacit approval from the new leadership of this country, it is out and more blatant than it has been in a very long time.   So, while I may be white, yes, this is also personal.

What will be done to Medicare and Medicaid?   My mother is elderly and is a beneficiary of both Medicare and Medicaid.  She receives services that I can not provide for her from several states away.  What do I do if her benefits are cut?  What does she do?  I, myself, am on Social Security Disability. This makes it very personal for me on two levels.

I have just heard that a Trump advisor made mention of the Japanese internment camps as a model for what may be done for a “Muslim” registry, which will also include most immigrants.  I find it abhorrent that this is even being considered.  This brings us to the deportation of millions of immigrants, once again destroying families, sending people back to the countries they left in fear.  Has none of these so-called leaders seen the Statue of Liberty lately?  “Give me your poor, your tired, your huddles masses, yearning to breathe free”.  These words have always meant something important to this country.  We are, or have been in the past, the beacon of freedom in this world.  Everyone in this country comes from somewhere else, or their families did.  If you are not Native American, then you are an immigrant, or your distant family were immigrants.  This should be personal to everyone who gives a damn about others.  Do you give a damn?

I’m sure I am missing something, but no matter what I am missing, it is nothing compared to what this new leadership team is missing – respect, compassion, sympathy, empathy (a brain??)  This is a country built on freedom, morals, integrity and dignity.  This is a country that has a separation of church and state for a reason.

So, if you voted for DT for change or hatred of his opponent, then you were somehow able to overlook hatred, bigotry, violence, sexism, racism, genderism, misogyny; you were able to overlook that he was endorsed by David Duke and the KKK ; you were able to overlook basic human rights, respect and dignity.   I don’t think that is something I can overlook in you, that you are that type of person and my sincere hope is that you are not in my life somewhere, hiding behind a facade of political correctness.  If you are, come out of hiding, so that I can tell you directly that I do not wish you in my life.

This is personal for me, for so many others with hearts.  This is not normal, he is not normal.  Don’t start living your life as if nothing has happened.  Don’t get over it.  Don’t accept it.  Please do not normalize him and what he and his cronies will do to this country.  It’s been done before (see Nazi Germany) and it did not end well.

No, this is not normal, and yes, this is personal

 

)O(

 

More Post-Election Thoughts

It’s no secret that the last six days have been hell for some, and paradise for others.  I fall into the “hell” category.  I have run the gamut of emotions for sobbing uncontrollably, to denial, confusion, anger, wanting to fight until my dying breath.  I can’t say it has gotten any better, yet, and may not for a very long time.

I’m not going to repeat what we have all seen around the ‘Net and Facebook.  Minorities are scared.  Members of the LGBTQ community are scared.  Those who are mentally and physically disabled are scared.  Women are terrified.  I can’t see these feelings going away anytime soon; in fact, as we move forward into an abyss, these feelings may intensify.

I have heard/read/seen repeatedly that those who voted for the President-elect are not all racist, misogynistic, bigot people.  I do believe this.  There are people whom I know personally who voted for him, and to my knowledge, none of them fall into this category.  However, the incidents of racism and hate have been trickling in from all over the country and, from what I can see, they are increasing.  I am of the mind that they will continue to increase.  So while not all of them are of DT’s mindset, enough of them are to make this country increasingly uncomfortable.  This is one of the truths that has been unveiled.

The news that has been reported is also not comforting.  An anti-semite has been appointed Chief of Staff.  Pence, the VP-elect, heads the transition team.  Make not mistake, he is as bad, if not worse than Trump.  His religion dictates his every move and that always spells disaster.  For people who complain about the Middle East and Sharia law, Pence’s mindset is not that far from it.  I am amazed by these politicians who throw the Constitution around but have no idea what it says, or means.  The separation of church and state was set up for a reason; Pence is that reason.

The campaign broke up many relationships, friends and relatives.  Some of the words flying back and forth on Facebook was truly heart-breaking.  But as we know, words, like toothpaste, can’t be put back in the tube.

If you thought these hate-filled comments would go away with the results of the election, you were wrong.  I try very hard to not get into these discussions/threads because it doesn’t solve anything.  It makes it worse and people dig in their heels.  Those of us who are empaths have it that much harder because we feel *everything* so damn much.

There is so much of this “get over it”  and “give him a chance” (ironic, that) talk.  I decided to comment that, in my opinion, white people can never *fully* understand the feelings of an African-American or a Latino/Latina; that straight folks can never *fully* understand the feelings of one in the LGBTQ community; we, who were born in this country can never *fully* understand the fears of those who were not, knowing that they can be kicked out of this country, their families destroyed;, nor unless we are mentally or physically disabled can we truly understand what they go through on a daily basis.

The only response I got (to my knowledge) was extremely sarcastic, snarky and nasty, stating that, of course, no one has women in the family, no one has any friends who are gay or black.  No, they absolutely couldn’t because he was nothing but a stupid white man who knew nothing.  Whoa!  There is one angry white man with many a chip on his shoulder; I’m guessing he voted fro Trump.  I wish him a good day and exited the conversation.  More stress I do not need.

Then yesterday, a woman that I am friends with on Facebook only, commented that it was going to be hard being the only american who will never accept the “racist, rapist elect”.  I will mention that this woman is African-American.  That point should not matter, but, let’s be real here, it does matter to some, to more than we previously thought.  She was attacked by those saying that she was NOT the only one and who did she think she was?  I think she is someone with two strikes against her — she is a woman and she is black.  She is also terrified and angry; she has every right to be.  All I commented to her was that I agreed with her 100%.  I really did not understand why there were those commenting as they did.  I’m sure she knew then and knows now that she is not alone, but these are her feelings and she is absolutely entitled to them.  She wasn’t speaking for you, or me, or anyone else, but only herself.  We all have that right; or we do for now.

You  may not always like the truth or want to hear it, but sometimes you have to look into that mirror and face it.

So, six days out – we all need to be strong, stand together, FIGHT.  Those of us of a more progressive, liberal bent now know what is ahead of us.  When it gets bad, when you want to cry more, or hide under the covers, reach out to someone who feels the same as you.  Let them support you emotionally, and, in turn, you will support them.

I wish us all the strength and courage we will all need to weather what comes next.  May the Goddess bless us all.

 

)O(

What Happens Now?

Like so many other women around this country and the world, I, too, was/am aghast at the results of the US presidential election.  Like so many, I sobbed when I read the news upon awakening on November 9, 2016 – a day that should stand in infamy, like December 7th and September 11th.  This is not hyperbole, this is truth.

I am fortunate in that I have a large tribe of Goddess-Sisters and Goddess-Women to whom I could discuss this with.  My feelings were understood and I understood theirs.  I had a message waiting for me when I awoke from my beautiful Sister, TA, and I was touched and honored by her reaching out to me in the wee hours.

I stand in fear of the future.  While we never know what the future will actually bring, in this case, we have his words to tell us what the US future may bring.

I fear for those whom I love in the LGBTQ community, whose marriages and families could be ripped apart, once again completely discriminated against.  I fear for immigrants who are fleeing the evil in their own countries to be denied entrance into our country because of the evil being done here. I fear for those illegal immigrants already here who face being tossed out unceremoniously.  I fear for those who depend on the Affordable Care Act for their medical insurance because they are elderly,  unemployed, poor or have an existing medical condition that prohibits them from getting insurance any other way.  I fear for those who have mental health issues as they will get no sympathy or empathy from this new administration.  I fear for minorities, whether they be African-American, Latina/Latino, Native American and so on.  I fear “stop and frisk”.  I fear more young men of color being shot down by the authorities we are supposed to trust. I fear for Mother Earth as climate change will surely ravage Her more than it already has.   I fear for the world as there is now a madman at the helm of the “button”, a man who loves belittling others and cannot turn a deaf ear to those who dislike him, a man who is a bully.

I fear for women.  We have fought so long and so hard for equal rights.  The ERA seems more like a dream than ever.  We have fought sexual harassment and molestation; we have fought rape and rape culture – we are still fighting these battles.  Now, this country will be led by a so-called man who disrespects women and is proud of it, who brags of what he does and how he gets away with it, who thinks nothing of walking in on naked women in a dressing room and belittling women he feels are unworthy due to their looks.

I fear for our children.  The young girls, who already suffer under patriarchy and are continuously barraged with images that look down on them as inferior, and they continue to suffer as they mature, knowing that they will never be equal.  The young boys, who already are learning rape culture and disrespect toward women will now have an excuse for why they can continue to behave this way.  How can we teach them that bullying is wrong when the country is run by the biggest bully?

I fear that we live in a country so filled with hate, anger, bigotry and violence. That people want change is not bad; that people would vote for a man such as this one continues to boggle my mind.  Women, white women, voted for this unqualified misogynist over a very well-qualified woman.  The fissues of trust in reference to her, were completely overshadowed by *everything* about his man.  In  my last blog I referred to these women as traitors, betraying their gender.  I stand by that statement.

We are, today, still aghast and in fear.  We wonder what happens now?  I believe what happens is that we dry the tears of yesterday.  We rise up, together, and we fight for decency.  We fight for our children, our country and our world.  And, yes, we fight for ourselves.  Search out those who feel as you do, band together.  Women, get together wherever you are – Sisterhood is powerful – don’t forget that.

I am all that conservative America hates – a woman and a feminist who practices a Goddess-based religion and identifies as a Witch.  I have everything to fear, but in the past 24 hours, I have promised myself that, while I may be afraid, I will never give in, and I will never surrender.  Love, goodness, and decency must win; because if it does not, we are doomed.

)O(

 

Vote and Fight, or What the Hell are They Thinking?!

In the time that I have had this blog, I have written about the Goddess, feminism – ‘cuz, yeah, feminist here – a couple of personal things.  I try to be open about how I feel, but not so open that those that disagree would go on the attack.  As we know, too many women bloggers/writers/gamers/what-have-you are attacked through social media and other on-line outlets.  They are hacked, have the addresses published, are threatened with rape, murder, you name it, it has happened to them.  I just didn’t want to deal with that; additional stress is NOT what I want in my life.

I think I’m going to break that personal rule because too much is at stake for anyone to keep their mouth shut.  Here, in the US, we are getting closer to the ever-more-frighteing Election Day, or “The Mess from Hell”.

I will say that while I am not 100% for Hillary Clinton, I have absolutely no idea why she is hated so much; unless, of course, it is because she is a woman and the GOP finds that infuriating.  While there is this whole email thing, the FBI originally said there was no “there” there.  Until now, when the Director, a registered Republican, decides to make much ado about, well, nothing.  Again, nothing there.  Meanwhile, the FBI has not gotten involved, nor notified Congress, about investigations into Trump (ugh) and his connections with Russia.

We also have the media – lovely, aren’t they? – all over her, and the damn emails to the point where you just want to either hide your head under the covers, or stick it in the toilet and vomit up everything you’ve eaten for the past year.   BUT – where are they on DT’s dealing with Putin/Russia.  What about his flat out refusing to make his tax returns public?  THAT is a man hiding way too many things.  Then we have, I think, 75 individual lawsuits currently in existence against him, one of them for RAPING A 13 YEAR OLD CHILD.  Not a surprise when we know that he is a sexual molester/predator/criminal.   That went by the boards rather quickly, didn’t it?  Misogyny and the things that women put up with on a damn daily basis became THE topic; maybe NOW things will change.  Hahaha   Sorry, my Sisters, is not going to happen; one week later and poof!  Status quo, and don’t doubt it can get worse.   If he is president, what do you think will happen.  It’s no secret that incidents of racism increased after the election of our first Black president — what do you think will happen if we elect our first WOMAN president?   Think things cannot get worse; if so, think again, and remind yourself of how DT speak of women – as body parts, as animals, as something to be groped, owned and tossed away.  He evens speaks sexually disparaging about his own daughter!  What a man!  What a role model!  Really, true men do not speak like this.

But, wait – there’s more!   Who can forget him mocking a person with disabilities, fomenting fear, anger and hatred against immigrants fleeing for their lives and the lives of their children?   He shows no understanding and no compassion to other human beings in an untenable situation.  He targets a fear of terrorists/terrorism to push an inhumane position and using methods of torture to get what he wants, i.e. information.  The whole Mexican border wall thing?  Some things are just too ridiculous to believe he even thinks he can get away with saying these things.  As for him sticking up for the poor and the working class – that gullible I am not, and neither should you be.  What the hell does he know about being poor, even when declaring bankruptcy a bunch of times.  He just knows how to work the system.

Let’s take this  “Make American Great Again” tagline.  This has been around for many years – it’s a nice way of saying “Make America White Again”.  Don’t listen to me, read this, yes, please read it now.    I am sure that there are many who are not aware of this.  I wasn’t and I’m thankful to Rachel Maddow for doing most of an entire show on what is an eye-opening history.  He reaches out to the bigots, the racists and they respond. He has given these folks, who have mostly remained hidden due to political correctness , to come out of the woodwork because, hey, yay, it’s now american to be hate-filled and violent. This would go for the entire GOP; they made him, they raised and nurtured him and if it wasn’t him, it would be someone like him.    The GOP speechify about family values, God/Jesus and the American Way.  Make no mistake, what they mean is their way.   So, some evangelicals think you should vote for DT; it doesn’t matter anything else he says or does, he is going to do away with Planned Parenthood and abortion.  Somehow, everything else becomes irrelevant.  I’m not Christian but I think Jesus is going insane if he is listening to what they are spouting.

I do not understand those who support and defend him, but you know what I REALLY don’t understand?  Women.  Women who support Donald Trump and the GOP.  Really?  This is what you are embracing?   A party that wants to take away your body sovereignty, decent health care for women, don’t want to pay you what men are paid because, honestly, you are just a woman and you don’t deserve it.  Men are superior and should get paid more.  They are continually trying to pass laws against women and their bodies.  Newt Gingrich (another ugh) can say to Meghan Kelly that all she is interested in is sex, but I think he doth protests too much.  There are women who support DT, a man who thinks absolutely nothing good about women.  He’s a pig, a misogynist and, as previously stated, a sexual criminal.

In my view, these women are traitors to their gender, to the women who have fought so long and so damn hard for equal rights for women, to the women who are STILL fighting.  Some women will never give up this fight; they might take a break occasionally for sanity’s sake, but they will come back harder and stronger.  Is it that these women are so brainwashed with the crap that is shoved down our throats our entire lives that they cannot conceive of anything different?  I have heard the terms “male-identified” and “internalized misogyny” to describe it; that they, themselves, are internalizing a hatred for their own gender; the women they should be supporting.  It’s a tough thing for feminists to see in other women.  I try to be compassionate and want so much to understand, but I don’t, and I can’t.  It is so foreign to me.

Donald Trump is dangerous – dangerous to minorities, dangerous to the disabled, dangerous to the poor and working class, dangerous to people of color and immigrants, extremely dangerous to women, and most of all, he is dangerous to this country as a whole. The thought of him being elected is terrifying in the extreme. The GOP continuing to have a majority in the House and Senate would mean more steps backward and halting the progress already made.

Be aware of the issues – don’t let the media and the GOP sway you with fear and hate.  Vote and fight for what is right.  Vote and continue to fight for what women have fought for for so long.  Vote and fight for decency.  Fight for this country and for the world.

P.S.   You can keep your hate, your intolerance and your vitriol to yourself.  Any such comments will not be approved, nor responded to.

 

Women’s Experiences

(Note: Please read down to the bottom where a request is made of those women reading this.  Thank you. – SW)

 

I am a woman, and I am a feminist.  Therefore, it makes perfect sense that 99% of my online tribe are women and feminists; most of them also happen to practice a Goddess-centered spirituality.  We talk, we share experiences, feelings, opinions.  I also read quite a few feminist blogs.

Anyone who is familiar with these blogs is also very familiar with the term *mansplaining*.  While men may need to have this term explained to THEM, women will understand it even the very first time they see/hear it; after all, we are mansplained to almost every day, whether in real life, or in the media, etc.

For those living in caves who have are not aware of this term, Merriam-Webster online defines it as follows:

“Mansplaining is, at its core, a very specific thing. It’s what occurs when a man talks condescendingly to someone (especially a woman) about something he has incomplete knowledge of, with the mistaken assumption that he knows more about it than the person he’s talking to does.”

Here, also is a good article on the cultural history of mansplaining from the Atlantic.

So, with that firmly in mind, I will get to the point of this article.

I recently got into a conversation with a man on the harassment that women have to deal with on a daily basis; things like getting groped on public transportation, having men make comments to you on the street (which are, of course, meant to be complimentary), and then the comments they  make to you when you ignore them, which are always lovely to hear.  I’ve been a woman all my life.  I have personally experienced these and more, so much more.  Of course, it was pointed out that these were very much in the past, letting me know that I’m old and my experiences don’t have much relevance anymore.  I tried to explain that this happens every – single – day, everywhere.  It is something that women live with, plain and simple.  I’m told that no, it isn’t; he disagrees that this happens everywhere to all women on a daily basis.  I explained that no, it does not happen to every woman, every day, but that every day it happens to some women everywhere.

I am then hit with the “not all men” argument.  I am not arguing with that because we, as rational women (yes, there are rational women) KNOW that it is not all men; however, as the hashtag puts it so succinctly #YESALLWOMEN.

Well, if there are *some* men who do this, then they have mental issues.  I ask, “you think that all men who do this have mental health problems?”  The response is yes.  I ask, “so, construction workers that make these comments or any other man who does these things has mental health issues?”.  (I need to clarify this statement, hence the repeat.)  Yes, that is what he believes.

So, okay, what is my point?  There is absolutely nothing knew in this post.  We have all heard/read these arguments many times, in many ways.  So why bother?  This is why I have bothered:

For those of you who are willing to share your personal experiences  of  workplace, sexual and street harassment, I would like to hear from you.  You do not have to identify yourself; use your initials or an alias.  My email is: ShaktiWarriorSpirit@gmail.com.   I will follow up on this blog with some of the responses I receive; again with no identifying information.

Then, please share this blog, in the hopes of hearing from more women on this subject.  I think this is very important.  So much of what we experience is ignored or minimized because we are allegedly “too sensitive, have no sense of humor, or just can’t take a compliment”.  I love all of those buzzwords, don’t you?

I hope to here from you.  You never know, depending upon what type of response I get, it may turn into something bigger than a blog post.

Thank you,

Shakti Warrior

Random Thoughts on a mid-September Day

I tend to ignore my blog more often than not.  I have other articles I am working on, on any given day, and even though I tell myself every day I am going to pop on over here, I usually don’t.  Today, I actually made it.

It’s September 13th.  The country made it through the 9/11 anniversary.  I chose to not watch, nor read, anything regarding the anniversary and spent the day at the local Pagan Pride Day.  Why?  Mostly because I do not have to have a specific day to remember.  While I did not lose anyone that day, as so many did, my family came close.  My husband got on a plane that morning at 8:57, at Logan Airport in Boston (MA, USA) heading west.  It took my children and I six hours before we knew that he was not one of the dead.  We were fortunate; so many others were not.  I live in a smallish community and we lost one of our own.  My family was lucky; his was not.  So, I really don’t need a special day to remember something that stays with you like that.  In looking back and remembering all that sorrow, what sticks out is the unity that this country found in the wake of the attack(s).  That brings even more sadness in light of what this country has become; a place of bigotry and hatred, a place where people find more to pull them apart than to bring them together, a place that has allowed someone to run for president who appeals to the lowest in everyone, and apparently there are those who wish to follow and support him.  One of the lowest points in this country’s history became a unifying one that has  brought us full circle to another low point, on of our own making this time.

So, everyone is on Hillary Clinton because, first of all, she’s human and came down with pneumonia.  I have had it and I give her lots of credit for keeping the schedule that she did, while ill.  But the media has to make more out of it than it really is.   The plain fact of the matter is she did what women do every single day of their lives, more than they need to, because they have to, for just that reason.  There is always someone there to say they cannot do a job for *this* reason, when what they are really saying is she can’t do the job because she’s a woman.  It’s time for nonsense like this to finally stop.

She also stuck her foot into it when describing Trump’s supporters as “deplorables”.  Granted this was an awful thing to say, and that is not a word I would have used; however, there are many people in this country who are amazed, appalled and disgusted that he has gotten the support that he has. I do not see how anyone in their right mind can follow that man, for reasons that have been renumerated in more widely read spaces than this.  I shall figuratively be holding my breath until the election is over.

I wrote this post a few months back on the election; I still firmly believe this; if anything, I believe it more strongly now than I did then.  Bernie, sadly, is out of the picture, but the rest of it still holds true.  What will happen, not only to women, but to this country, if the GOP wins the ticket is too horrifying to even contemplate.  This country would never recover; it is going to be hard enough to recover from the damage done to this country from Trump and his ilk, even if they lose.

Ryan Lochte….wow!  Talented swimmer, stupid man.  What he did in Brazil was terribly wrong and a stain on the country.  However, he is being punished by the US Olympics, as well as by several sponsors.  He has apologized several times.  This brings us to his first appearance on Dancing With The Stars last evening.  Yes, I am one of those who watch the show.  As disappointed as I was in his antics during the Olympics, I was even more disappointed that there were those out there who felt that they could disrupt a popular, national television show to….what?  attack him physically?  verbally?  What exactly were their intentions?  Whatever their intentions, they backfired and now I believe there are more folks thinking that Lochte deserves his second chance.  I happen to agree with that.  I wish him luck in the competition and beyond.

On a last note, women everywhere can give thanks that the pay gap has gotten closer.  May we all rejoice!  

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Old Feminists Never Die………

……..they just become an embarrassment.

It is a good thing that those First Wave Feminists are all dead now.  You know, those women who, in the late 19th and early 20th centuries,  put everything on the line, including their lives, to get women the vote?  They would be an embarrassment, and obsolete, to boot, in today’s feminism.

Why do I say this?  Because, apparently, the Second Wave Feminists, those from 1960’s to the mid-1980’s are an embarrassment to both Third Wave Feminists and what, I suppose are the current Fourth Wave Feminists.  

Second Wave tends to be feminists of a *certain age*,  and they know who they are.  They came of age during anti-war protests, the beginnings of the Civil Rights Movement and women, not only coming out of their 1950’s homes, but coming out of the closet in truth and in force, to protest.   They wanted sexual equality, they wanted sovereignty over their own bodies and lives, not much different from what feminists, in theory, want now.  The marched in protest; they burned their bras; NOW (National Organization of Women) and Ms. Magazine were started.  They fought hard from the Equal Rights Amendment, an amendment that we still do not have.  They were the ones who brought the Goddess back into our consciousness.  They were the ones who realized that feminism was more than just equal rights for women; they understood that the way women were treated is the way the planet and ALL of its’ creatures were treated.  They knew, deep within them, that the “personal was political” and began to get involved with politics on a national stage to bring about the change they felt should be coming.  The patriarchal system in which we all lived needed to be changed.  Women, such as Gloria Steinem and Shirley Chisolm, rose to the forefront.  They fought and they fought hard.

Now, it appears that it is THESE feminists who hate men, who have no sense of humor, who are always angry , who don’t understand that things “are different now”.  It is these women, who fought so hard, who have become jokes within the current feminist ideology.   Do they understand why some Third Wave and current feminists hesitate to even identify as feminists?  No, I don’t think so, because they were and are damn proud of what was done and is continuing to be done.  Most of them, all these years later, are still fighting the same fight, albeit maybe in smaller ways.   Yes, some may actually hate men, for whatever reason, but younger women have not lived their lives or walked in their shoes of 50-60 years ago.  In my experience, though, it is not men that they hate, but the patriarchal culture that abounds in this country and around the world.  Younger women do not understand what was closed to women due to the simple fact that they were women, but if this country continues in the way it is going, they may learn soon enough.

One of the things that they hear now is that patriarchy doesn’t just hurt women, it also hurts men.  I don’t think anyone would disagree with that statement; however, while they may agree that yes, it does, they would counter with, “but you don’t see any of them fighting it because they benefit from it enormously and want to continue to benefit from it”.  In my personal experience, I have met a handful of men (this includes online) who would bring down the patriarchy if they could.  In the scheme of things, that’s not much.  

There is also the fact that most older feminists have difficulty embracing intersectionality.  I have spoken to many to get their opinions as to why this is; the majority felt the same way, that the plight of a small number of people is erasing the plight of women, the same women who have been erased their entire lives, the same women who have been erased, ignored and degraded for centuries.  The rights of one should not come at the expense of the rights of others and that goes for ANY human/civil rights movement.  

Most Second Wavers do not see prostitution and porn as a choice and a way to empowerment.  They see it as another way the patriarchy keeps women in their place and on their knees.  

In the long view, these disagreements are minor.  The long view is equal rights for all, regardless of gender, sex, color, religion, as well as caring for the environment, animal rights and our Mother Earth.  THESE are what is important in that long view, and this is what should not be forgotten.

In the current atmosphere, equal rights for all is now further away that it has been in a long time. We have a narcissistic, bullying, hate-filled dictator wanna-be as a presidential candidate.  We have police officers murdering young black men.  Women are on the verge of losing their sovereign right to make choices for their own bodies.  Terrorists, taking a Goddess’s name in vain is wreaking fear, havoc and death around the world with impunity.   These are the things that should be important, not disagreements between women on how to best accomplish goals that will be good for all.

This country and world, are on a slippery, downward slope.  Maybe the older feminists have something they can teach the younger ones; and maybe, the younger ones should listen, because they have already been where you are headed. *******

 

********DISCLAIMER — NOT ALL SECOND WAVE FEMINISTS THINK THE SAME WAY; NOR,      DO ALL THIRD WAVE FEMINISTS THINK THE SAME WAY.  THESE ARE GENERALITIES ONLY, BECAUSE, REALLY, NOT EVERYONE IN ANY PARTICULAR GROUP HAS THE SAME THOUGHTS, EVER. THANK YOU.

 

 

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